I find people are obsessed with anything that tells them for a fact who they are. From Astrology to Briggs Myers the search for self and people you’d like to interact with is deep and winding. Folks need your birth time and place followed up with your Truity results before you can grab a cup of coffee with them. But this isn’t really a drag on the folks who define themselves by their strong opinions, even if at times they ignore the problem with being hardnosed in these areas. Today we will drag folks who define themselves by having no opinion at all. One of my favorite movie quotes is…

I’m a multigenerational Black American meaning my family came over during slavery. I never had to deal with much duality like an African or a Caribbean immigrant might. However, I was raised God first, Pridein Blackness next. So, I was aware that I was different and proud of that difference but there was really nothing that made me feel I was having a completely separate experience from other Americans. I had all the same little teeny bopper boy band crushes white teenagers had I just also happened to have a crush on Method Man. Something extra, a little spice. That’s how I viewed my Blackness. Like paprika. As I got…

I think by now we have all seen the Gorilla Glue situation. If not TLDR a young lady  named Tessica Brown used Gorilla Glue to lay her edges and smooth her hair for a ponytail. The glue did  not wash out.  Some of us have laughed, some of us have cried and some of us have done a little of both. Especially after hearing her age ( she is 40 ) I personally got very confused. I was grappling with “but why?” What motivated this woman to get so panicked that her edges were not laid that she grabbed REAL glue to do her hair? A follow up interview with…

I’m probably what people would consider a secular womanist. I don’t own a pink pussy cat hat but I’m fairly vocal on instances of injustice against all humans including those against my own gender. I tend to have moderate views as I can see clearly that politics is one vicious cycle that will perpetually leave the have nots having not, but you don’t have to be [ insert name of non canceled political pundit] to understand right is right and wrong is wrong. So as far as I am concerned the idea of dismantling a system that leaves women largely without power, i.e. the Patriarchy, isn’t a bad idea. Now,…