• Do The Work,  Friendship,  Relationships

    Now Was That Positively Toxic or Toxically Positive?

    I read a quote the other day that said “Sometimes we create our own heartbreaks through expectations.” To say these words were counteractive to the buzz my coffee was giving me is putting it mildly. I found the words depressing and heavy. I searched trying to find the morbid, acholic, gothic writer who obviously had penned this. This chick Siri had the nerve to tell me “Author Unknown.” So the only thing I got confirmed was the fact that someone really feels this way. And to me that meant someone also felt if they set no expectations, hoped for nothing, withdrew from situations before seeing if their dreams could manifest,…

  • Relationships

    Gaslighting, The Light that Keeps on Giving

    I’m what most consider to be a nice person. I’ve even been accused of having an almost naïve childlike disposition. Understanding, wide eyed…ready for the slaughter. I think this is especially true in dating. I have no problem admitting I’m an easy mark for most men. Some either “just wish they were good enough for me…” or they “just wish I wasn’t ‘so good’ “ But no matter what type of man I interact with they all use the same method as their exit strategy. Gaslighting, and I’m starting to take it personally.  I find people take exception to being accused of gaslighting. Gaslighting is an abusive behavior, specifically when…